A Weekly Journey into Purpose, Leadership, and Whole-Brain Thinking
Chronicle 3: You're Not Too Much. You're Misunderstood
May 31, 2026
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Someone told you to stop being so sensitive. Or so rigid. Or so scattered. Or so in your head.
And somewhere along the way, you believed them.
So you started shrinking — shaving off the edges of how you naturally think, feel, and show up — just to fit into spaces that weren't built for you.
But what if those edges aren't flaws?
What if they're exactly how God designed you to function?
The Shrinking Game
We learn early how to make ourselves more palatable.
The analytical thinker learns to smile more so they don't seem cold. The structured planner learns to be spontaneous so they don't seem rigid. The empathetic connector learns to toughen up so they don't seem weak. The big-picture visionary learns to slow down so they don't seem scattered.
We call it maturity. We call it professionalism. We call it being a team player.
But often what we're really doing is abandoning our design to make other people comfortable.
And the cost of that abandonment is enormous — not just to us, but to the people we were designed to serve.
Because the world doesn't just need a version of you that fits in.
It needs the version of you that was actually designed to show up.
What God Says About Your Design
Ephesians 2:10 tells us: "For we are God's handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do."
Handiwork. Not mass production. Not a template.
You were handcrafted — specific features, specific wiring, specific purpose. The very thing you've been apologizing for might be the very thing your calling requires.
Reflection Questions
Sit with these honestly:
What part of yourself have you been shrinking to fit into spaces that weren't built for you?
Who told you that part of you was too much — and did you ever stop to ask if they were right?
Write your answers down. This is where the unlearning begins.
This Week's Action Step
Think of one situation this week where you would normally shrink or apologize for how you naturally show up.
Choose not to.
Show up as you are. Observe what happens when you stop editing yourself before you even begin.